Motivation Monday: 3 Things I wish I knew Before My Mother Died

September made a year since my mother passed. Losing my mother and best friend was the hardest thing that I’ve ever had to deal with. The grief lives on and I have my days where I just can’t move, eat or sleep. It’s a new normal, I’m now a part of the motherless tribe. But I’m not alone. I’m lucky enough to have a good girlfriend who decided to share her loss and grief on a greater level, she wrote a book called Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died: Coping with Loss Every Day, by Ty Alexander. Ty  managed to make me smile, laugh and cry in just the first chapter. I’m coping with loss every day and today I’m sharing 3 things I wish I knew Before My Mother Died.

“Ty Alexander of Gorgeous in Grey is one of the top bloggers today. She has a tremendous personal connection with her readers. This is never more apparent than when she speaks about her mother. The pain of loss is, unfortunately, universal. Yet, we all grieve differently. For Alexander, the grieving process is one that she lives with day-to-day. Learning from her pain, Alexander connects with her readers on a deeply emotional level in her debut book, Things I Wish I Knew before My Mom Died. From grief counseling to sharing insightful true stories, Alexander offers comfort, reassurance, and hope in the face of sorrow. In this soul-touching book, mourners will find meaning and wisdom in grieving and the love that will always remain.”


Don’t take your loved ones for granted– like what Ty said the first chapter of her book, We’ve been duped; everyone dies. I too thought my mother was supposed to live forever there was so much that I wanted to experience with my mother. So many things I took for granted. Everyone dies at some point and we need to make the best memories with them while they’re still alive.

Love up on your loved ones- a hug, a kiss on the cheek, a simple I love you is all that is needed. I was luckily enough to spend time with and care for my mom in her 18 months of fighting cancer. I made sure I cuddled with her every chance I got. Our hospital days were filled with lots of holding hands and I love you’s. Now I’m making sure show my loved ones love daily and not just during the hard times.
Be Obsessively Grateful – Chapter 5 is all about being grateful for everything that has happened to you. The good and the bad because it makes you who you are today. You see my mom wasn’t always in my life. She struggled with addiction which led to my grandmother gaining full custody of me when I was 7. At age 11 I went to live with my father for the rest of my teen years. My mother came back into my life when I graduated from high school. I never judge her for sickness/addiction, I was just happy to have back in my life. When I had my daughter at 20 that’s when I went to live with my mother and our bond became stronger than ever. I was simply grateful that I was able to build a relationship with my mother. Little did I know that 8 years later I would lose her to cancer. Even though I’m still grieving, I’m so grateful that I was able to reconnect with my mother and she was able to build a relationship with not just me but also her granddaughter. #beobsessivelygrateful 

This book walks you through the cycle of mourning and coping. Ty managed to capture all of my thoughts and feelings as I adapt to the new normal of being a part of the motherless tribe. Her willingness to open up share her experience will keep you engaged and wanting to read more. Be sure to grab a copy for not only yourself but also a girlfriend who may need it.

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Hope this Post Motivates and Inspires You To Connect With Your Loved Ones.